Have you ever had the experience of going to the doctor with a gyn issue and walking out feeling kind of…..defeated? Maybe you try to tell him or her that you are concerned about your periods. Either they don’t come regularly, you have bleeding too often, or you’ve been casually trying to get pregnant for a few years and it hasn’t happened. You feel like something is ‘off.’ So you share this, hoping to get some real help or insight and you get……the pill. If this is you, let’s talk about how to get real help for your irregular cycles from your doctor.
Here are a few things you can do to get better care when you’re dealing with cycle issues:
Know what you’re dealing with. Cycles can be kind of hard to pin down. Maybe you track when your periods come on an app or on a calendar, but it can be hard to tell sometimes just what is and isn’t a period. Sometimes it seems like you’ve skipped a period, or one of your periods was really weird. You just feel a little in the dark about what’s going on.
The answer to this is charting.
Charting to get real help for your irregular cycles
This chart is going to give you so much data to work with so you can have an intelligent conversation with your care provider.
Next, share it with your doctor. Does he/she seem to care? This is amazing data you’ve collected here about your fertility. With the chart you can see how many days of fertility you have, your bleeding patterns, the length of your luteal phase, when and how often intercourse is happening.
This is a gold-mine of data about your fertility! Your doctor should want to see it!
For example, I recently suspected that my blood pressure was high, so I collected 2 months worth of data on it. My doctor happily looked at it, as he should, and we decided not to medicate me for high blood pressure at this time.
If I was concerned about my blood pressure and my doctor didn’t care about the data I’d collected on it, it’d be time to find another doctor.
Ask The Right Questions
For example, If you’re experiencing a lot of brown bleeding or your periods aren’t coming regularly, ask why. What’s the diagnosis? What’s causing it? How can it be corrected?
Walking out of the office with no diagnosis does sometimes happen, but there needs to be a plan. There needs to be proper follow up care and a treatment plan to get you better.
If the doctor wants to put you on the pill, a good question to ask is, When I come off of this, will be issue be fixed?
I was recently on a FB group for moms in my local area. A woman asked a question about her niece. Apparently the 15 year old girl would bleed heavily all the time if she wasn’t on birth control. The aunt was concerned that her mom wasn’t taking her to get her birth control refilled. I asked the question, “Why does this 15 year old girl bleed all the time?”
“I don’t know,” the aunt said. “Does she have a diagnosis?,” I asked.
“No, not that I know of.” We sometimes forget that a good answer to what the real problem is can lead to a good solution to the problem.
The teenager had been having periods for more than 3 years, so her cycles should have gone through the natural regulation that happens in the first couple of years after a girl starts her periods. She needed a better answer.
If All Else Fails, Switch Providers
Sometimes, despite being an advocate for yourself, you will still walk away feeling like you didn’t get help for your irregular cycles. If you feel like this is the case, don’t be afraid to change care providers. We recommend doctors trained in NaPro Technology.
More doctors are beginning to come on board with treating women’s health problems differently. You may have to do some searching to find them, but they are out there. In Texas, where I live, we have NaPro Technology trained doctors practicing reproductive healthcare in Houston, Austin, San Antonio, Dallas, and Fort Worth. Many of them offer telemedicine and long distance care to anyone from anywhere. Some nurse midwives, physician assistants, and nurse practitioners are taking a special interest in helping restore women’s reproductive health without the pill. For our part, Part of teaching women to chart and helping them get good medical care is coordinating care with one of these great doctors, no matter where you happen to live.
Have questions? EMail us! Shirelle@InfinityFertilityCare.com